Things I have learned

Another month is coming to a close. That means I only have 1 full month and a partial month left of this deployment. I have learned so many things while J has been gone. Some good, some bad, some breaks my heart, and some I am so glad I learned.

1. People that do not have any affiliation to the military really have no clue. How can someone compare an overnight business trip or even a couple days to a year-ish long deployment. How can you compare your husband sleeping in a 4 star hotel to mine sleeping on the ground in full battle rattle?

2.That I am stronger than I thought. I can be independent. I don't need J's input on everything. I still want it, especially with major decisions.

3.Cherish the moments, when your loved one is gone its the memories that you sleep with at night. You don't fully realize how much you miss someone until its the little things that you miss.

4. That if there is something you don't want to talk about the best thing to say is I don't know. If you answer with I don't want to talk about it some people will continue to try to talk to you about it, but if you play dumb and stick to it then people will quit asking. It also stops them from asking things in the future. This also helps with stuff that you can't and/or don't want to share with others. Sometimes there are things you just can't say over the phone or on the computer. This may sound selfish or childish but when you have people on your case all the time for information sometimes it is the best thing to say.

5. I have learned who my true friends are. It is sad to say that people that I thought would be there for me through thick and thin have only been there when it would benefit them. Even on the good days. People that I did not really think I could have depended have proved me wrong. I guess I need to learn to be a better at picking my friends.

6. Saying goodbye after R&R is a lot harder than saying goodbye for the first time. I had heard this on a forum I am a part of at the start of this deployment and I could not understand how that could be true, but after having to do both I now understand.

Five question Friday

I saw this on a blog I follow and thought this would be fun. On Fridays you answer 5 questions about yourself.

1. Can you drive a stick shift?
Yes I can, very well actually. I have been driving one since I had to drive my brother around when he would get drink. He I think was 18 or 19 so that would make me about 14 or 15. My vehicle I drive now is a stick, but after driving one day in an day out for so long, I think my next vehicle will be an automatic

2. What are two foods you just can't eat?
I can't eat fish or seafood due to allergies.
2 foods I refuse to eat are mushrooms because it reminds me of having a cold and having snot slide down your throat and raw onions. I just can't stand the taste. I will eat them if they are cooked weird I know

3. Do you buy Girl Scout Cookies? What is your favorite kind?
Oh yes. I am in love with Thin Mints. Somedays they are God's gift and other days they are the devil.

4. How do you pamper yourself?
I love pedicures. As a matter of fact I am getting one tomorrow. I have also introduced myself to massages. Oh how wonderful those things are.


5. What is your nickname and how did you get it?
Family and close friends call me Mandi. My 4 year old nephew used to call me Amy but now calls me Mandi. I miss him calling me that.

I got J's car today. The dealership agreed to do some minor repairs. My family was going out to eat and my brother was in the backseat. He opens up the ashtray and what does he find? Some jewelry. I am pretty sure that it is the real mccoy. There is a part of me that says I should contact the dealership and try to find out who the previous owner was so I can give them back their jewelry. But then I get to thinking that its now my car so therefore anything that is in the car is mine. I guess they should have done better when they were cleaning out the car before trading it in. I am going to wait till I can talk to J to see if he wants any of it. It is obviously men's jewelry and if not I will take to a place that buys gold and make some money off of it.

Its kind of funny because this car is exactly like mine, with a few exceptions like color, no sunroof, and no factory sound system. It the same year, same body style, everything. His car does have rims, where my car has the factory wheels. He is so excited about his car. I hope he will keep it nice. He has a tendency to beat the piss out of his vehicles and then it looks and runs like crap. I will be so mad if he does that to this one.

Things I don't like about J being home.

J will be home soon and I started thinking about all the stuff that will change once he gets home. I am very excited that he will be home, but there are some things that I dread. I thought it would be fun to list the things that I don't like about him being home.

1. Smelly PT gear. There is nothing worse than not being able to find where a smell is coming from only to find a smelly sock under the bed or behind the dresser.

2.Having clothes strung from one end of the house to the other because he can't put his clothes including the smelly socks in the hamper.

3. Having to make dinner every night. I like having cereal, fruit, or some other easy meal. He will want a good meal at night.

4.Having to watch his shows. We have different tastes in shows so it can be an argument when we both want to watch stuff at the same time.

5. Sharing the bed and the pillows. After a year of sleeping by myself or one of my nephews, it will be an adjustment to have another adult in the bed with me.

6.Waking up at O'dark thirty because he can't wake up to his alarm on his own. He has to have it go off for 30 minutes before he decides to get up.

Really people

I have been slacking on my blogging. It is getting close to J being home and it just feels like there are not enough hours in my day anymore. There is just to much to do. I will be so glad to have a day to myself. Since I honestly can't remember everything that has happened since my last blog, I am going to just talk about this week.

I was looking for a car for J when he gets home. I found a car online and went up to look at it. I got a bad vibe from the salesman from the start but J really wanted the car so I decided to over look it. Well wouldn't you know we butted heads. I wanted things done or I was not willing to sign papers and he just wanted me to sign papers. Needless to say it didn't work for me and I left as I was leaving he called me a very derogatory name and it wan't the b (I could have handled being called that) Instead of knocking his teeth down his throat I just told him to go do improper things to himself and I was very explict. I get home and make a status on facebook about what happened and what I said. You would have thought I murdered someone. I think my aunt and uncle called everyone in the family about my post. UM REALLY?!?!?!?! How old are we? Last time I checked I was on a computer that I bought and I am an adult.

Anyway I ended up reporting the salesman and ended up getting the car at a better deal that he was offering. If J didn't want the car so bad I would have never went back up there, but I know J would be over the moon when I told him it was his. I was kind of nervous that he would be mad about me going back after what transpired the night before since he called me in the middle of me being mad about the salesman and then my aunt and uncle. I was able to talk to him tonight and he was happy.

Work is still crazy. I am almost able to count down the weeks on one hand of the time I have left there. And then only a couple weeks after that till J gets home. I am so excited.